Immortalised in poetry, prose, songs and other media such as television and film, the journey to that one true love is as important now as it has ever been. True love, romantic love, real love, call it what you will is definitely the ultimate prize. And it is from this premier love, this optimal emotion, this love to end all loves, that everything else cascades down as it is this love which begets human life and propagates the human race giving rise to sibling love, parental love and more distant family love.
It is the spring of life and therein lies its inherent power and importance. The innate insecurity of love, rather perversely, is what makes it so desirable and the subject of such focus and this is one of the reasons why it is so powerful. Not every fairytale encounter leads to a happy ending sadly. Taking something for granted can devalue its importance in our life, we all do it and it is only when it is denied us or taken away that we really appreciate the true value of what we had.
Take our health as one example, unappreciated probably until it is challenged or something as simple as a good job or a lovely home and especially, a relationship.
In the early days of a new relationship, passionate love is insecure, not certain, not guaranteed. There is always that wonder, that question, does he or she feel the same way about me and, to the same degree? We are out of control to some degree and want a guarantee that we can have our next fix. But those initial romantic feelings are vulnerable and delicate, intense and compelling but never guaranteed. Something that is an ultimate to us as human beings but is not guaranteed is attributed a worth beyond all worths.
And there is something to be said for the scarcity value of real true love. Same sex love is hugely powerful because it has been fought for and hard-won in different societies where acceptance and tolerance have been a long slow battle. Some might say same sex love is even more powerful and important because it has had to undergo resistance, intolerance and even physical and verbal abuse throughout its passage to a more visible presence in society.
Being persecuted in one form or another seems to have made the prize even more worthy and coveted. It is a perversity of human nature that if something is illicit or illegal or even just frowned upon, it is somehow more attractive and sought after than if it were transparent and accepted.
Same sex love has enjoyed something of this cachet which has imbued it with a power and significance which ironically might wane a little now that there are more openness and tolerance.
The fight for acceptance will transition into a more solid and open family love rather like that enjoyed by other members of society. Many people spend their entire lives on a quest for it. Anything that is rare and beautiful will always have mysticism and lure, like the visible lustre of an imperial Faberge Easter egg. It is human instinct to want to reach out for the unattainable but it is important to be careful not to muddle up wanting a particular person with wanting the actual status and condition of love itself.
The more desirable that person as well, the more people say how amazing he or she is, the more the kudos increases. It is well known in business and retail studies that scarcity functions like an obstacle which makes the pursuit of that particular goal or end product even more desirable.
Think Chanel or other designer brands. Does the fact that real, true love is not as common as would like to think it is mean that we crave it more just for this very fact? It is a well-known selling device by retailers to create a perception of scarcity in order to drive up sales.
Equally, offering eye-watering discounts is something many people feel they cannot miss out on even though they may not really want or need that item. But why is love so important? Scientific studies have shown that being in love causes our body to release feel-good hormones and neuro-chemicals that trigger specific, positive reactions.
Together, these chemicals are responsible for all the magic that we feel when we are in love. Unconditional love and compassion have many benefits. We love our children, relatives and friends, and want to be with them, and that makes our lives more meaningful. And make no mistake, it is a feeling, a state of being, one most definitely worth striving for. Love serves us also as a support structure for us to build our ship on.
Whatever future you envision, whatever methods you want to follow, and wherever you see yourself going, you know that you have someone by your side who believes in you, trusts you, wants to see you succeed, and always has an ear for you. This is why love is important. For you see, it is incredibly hard to find love without loving yourself first, and even harder to keep it. Loving yourself and who you are means that when you do fall in love with someone, you will be doing so because of an attraction to the person, their traits, their beauty inner and outer and their personality, and not because you are using them to cover up your own insecurities.
Loving yourself means being less needy in a relationship and less demanding, leading to a much healthier relationship all around which is filled with even more — you guessed it — love. So know why love is important, love yourself, and the rest, we promise, will fall in place. You will receive newsletter emails from time to time with what we believe is a valuable and interesting content.
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Subscribe To Our Newsletter You will receive newsletter emails from time to time with what we believe is a valuable and interesting content. The Eternal Question ]. In the same vein, love is also a great reformer. Have a bad habit that annoys your SO significant other? In the same way, if you are in love, and you make all of the above efforts, but for reasons the love goes sour, you still learn many vitally important life lessons even through the heartbreak.
The point still stands. You get the drift. Being in a healthy, two way, loving relationship is an incredible feeling, and is one of the pinnacles of the brief existence that is our life.
And make no mistake, it is a feeling, a state of being, one most definitely worth striving for.
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